Enjoying the Wonder

Enjoying the Wonder

It’s been a while since I said this, so I’ll say it now: It’s so nice being single. There are so many advantages to independence that they are almost too numerous to count. Between “Dear Future Husband” posts, friend’s weddings, and friendly questions/encouragements I can imagine that it would be an easy assumption that I REALLY want to get married. So I like to take a step back every now and then to give all of you and myself a little perspective.

Here’s my outlook right now. Single = good. Married = good.  That’s it.

I’m re-reading Lord of the Rings right now and really enjoying it (again). A day or two ago a quote jumped out at me and I’ve been enjoying it ever since. It says, “Do not spoil the wonder with haste.”

How many times have you rushed through something enjoyable only to look back and wish you had spent more time there? It happens to me all of the time! A great example: Most people say their wedding day is a blur. The one day that they spent months preparing for and thousands of dollars on went by so fast that they barely remember it.

I’ve been thinking about this in a more general sense. We all have different stages of our lives and each of us enter and exit them at different times and remain for different lengths. But it seems that often when we are in the midst of stages we’re always hoping for another. Singles can’t get marriage off of their minds, parents with young children can’t wait for them to be grown, parents of older children wish they were small again…

It seems we’re always wishing for another stage but often miss the wonder of where we are!

So here’s my encouragement to those at each stage of life:

Young people: Enjoy simplicity, responsibility and obligations come hard and fast then come again before you know what hit you.

School people: Learn all you can, your brains are sponges (which explains a lot) but won’t be forever. Take this time to get an idea of the information you will need in life and soak it up. You’ll never regret it.

Single people: Take advantage of your freedom and do something worth doing. You’ll never again have the independence and flexibility that you have right now. Don’t get grabby and rush into a relationship, once you’re married you’re stuck with what you’ve got.

Those in a relationship: Let’s keep it classy, ok? No need to ruin a good thing with an STD. Also, don’t forget your friends, you’ll want them around when you get over your twitterpation.

Married people, minus children: Take this time to get to learn about each other, once you have kids life will never be the same.

Married people with young children: You’re tired, but don’t worry you’ll get some sleep in a few years. Right now your kids really need you to be there, it’s a big deal, so keep up the good work it’ll be worth it!

Married people with teens: It will be ok.

Empty nesters: You made it! Try not to hold on too tight, the whole goal of all of your hard work was to get them to the point that they can be out on their own. That’s the point. Now’s the time to do those things you “always wanted to do” but didn’t.

Single again people: You have all the advantages of the first singles but with years of experience and maturity. Enjoy your newly remembered freedom and extra time and really invest in others. So many young people are crying out to be mentored, but few mature people are listening, will you?

Are you wishing away your life?

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M.A.C.

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  1. I DEF feel that way about kids. I'm really excited to have them but at the same time I love it being just us and us being able to sleep through the night!

    I do have to say though, I don't miss the dating part...I would not like to go back to that.

    1. Yeah, kids are cool but they are CRAZY amounts of money and work! I don't know how single parents to it!

  2. I DEF feel that way about kids. I'm really excited to have them but at the same time I love it being just us and us being able to sleep through the night!

    I do have to say though, I don't miss the dating part...I would not like to go back to that.

    1. Yeah, kids are cool but they are CRAZY amounts of money and work! I don't know how single parents to it!

  3. What I want to know is - how did you get all that wisdom - and your not even 30 yrs old!!

    1. "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him." James 1:5 - I go to the source :)

  4. that is so true you cant wait for the next step that you rush the time you have now. so yes you should enjoy the time you have now i to hope some day to find the one for me and have a family but on the othr had it does make since to just enjoy what you have now. you make great points. i gotta learn to do that not rush and have patience for the future cause people tojustld me it will be worth the wait enjoy what you have now. you got some good advice and nice ways of putting it thanks.

  5. James 1:5 is one of my favorite scriptures. Has never failed me. Except now my head has to catch up to the answer that my heart already knows.

    Some advice to add with your very mature outlook Abbie, love your life and those around you day by day. Those days quickly turn into months and then years and then decades and then something out of the ordinary happens and you're in shock! It's shocking how quickly 26 years pass and it's shocking how quickly a loved one can be taken from you. Take nothing for granted and savor each moment...even the grumpy ones. For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health for as long as you both shall live.

  6. James 1:5 is one of my favorite scriptures. Has never failed me. Except now my head has to catch up to the answer that my heart already knows.

    Some advice to add with your very mature outlook Abbie, love your life and those around you day by day. Those days quickly turn into months and then years and then decades and then something out of the ordinary happens and you're in shock! It's shocking how quickly 26 years pass and it's shocking how quickly a loved one can be taken from you. Take nothing for granted and savor each moment...even the grumpy ones. For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health for as long as you both shall live.