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Confident

I’m an observer of people by both nature and training. I love to look past the outer facade and observe the more subtle intricacies that drive us. Over my years of observation, I have developed a few theories that I have found to be generally accurate. One of the most consistent is this: Engaged women …read more →

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Do you love me now?

All relationships have phases. There’s the nervous, exciting first moments phase. There’s the gradual relaxing into comfortable. (I like to call this the “sweatpants stage.”) There’s the phase of discovery. To be fair, the discovery phase really isn’t so much a phase as a continual process, however, there are seasons in which more discovery takes …read more →

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Breaking the Pecking Order

A few months ago I house-sat for my sister’s family while they vacationed in Amish Country. Well, housesitting may be a generous term, I really “farm-sat”, which is everything it sounds like, and more. At this particular time there was an influx of babies on the farm, specifically a big box full of baby chicks. …read more →

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A 50/50 marriage

Split the work. Cut it in half. I do mine, you do yours. Do away with gender roles. Everything even. This is the modern concept of marriage. But does it really work? Is it really what we want? This morning I spent about 30 minutes in the kitchen cleaning up after some company my roommates …read more →

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My Wingman

If you had asked me a couple of years ago if I was going to get married, I would have told you that I didn’t know. Getting married has always been a part of what I wanted to do with my life, but at that point it just didn’t seem to be what God was doing, …read more →

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You Got This Boo!

Supposedly, everyone knows that men love the challenge of pursuing and winning a women, and women love being valued highly enough to be pursued and won. This is human nature 101. However, if you ask just about any person who’s single or who got married after the age of 20, you’ll probably hear about how love …read more →

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Who’s Your Daddy

Have you ever read the Dr. Seuss book, “Are you my mother?” If not, here’s the Cliff Note version: a mother bird notices that her egg is about to hatch, so flies off to find a worm for her new baby, only while she’s away her egg hatches. Noticing that it’s all alone, the baby bird …read more →

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The one about getting married

A lot of people have been expressing interest in my marital status recently, mostly kindly intentioned, I’m sure. And I get it. I do. Last birthday I hit the magic number 30, which, for women at least, begins conjuring up thoughts of “old maid” and “the spinster sister”. For the past several birthdays every well-wisher …read more →

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It's a date

Navigating the world of relationships can a rewarding, but arduous task – and rightly so. Think of all of the variables you must sort through: differences in gender, culture, connotation of terms, personality, finances, spiritual understandings, character qualities, family backgrounds, beliefs and baggage. With all of that, it’s a wonder anyone has successful long term …read more →

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Are You My Soul Mate?

[Editorial note: You know you’re busy when you have written blog posts completed and just don’t have time to publish them. This post may seem strange based on a few conversations I’ve had with some of you recently… but I promise, it’s been written for weeks! Carry on…] I don’t believe in soul mates, at least not …read more →

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